There must be a total surrender of hearts and minds between the partners of life. Both of them are in fact parallel universes in them to say esoterically. Both of whom the only closest persons within this infinity. They must function as the two parts of the same reality and soul and the bridge between the two must not be anything but love. Then, the bigger picture of a family becomes perfected by the time we start a good change in us before we want others to initiate it. The bond of two partners will be strong in this way only. We have to understand our responsibilities and not to find faults in each other. Nobody is perfect in this world. We are in trial world where at each step Allah puts a trial for us to know what actually you are. The circumstances make us or fail us. Each and everybody does have a history of sorrows and miseries which means we must respect the infirmities of each other and try our level best to enrich other physically, emotionally as well as spiritually. 

In comparison to males, females are delicate and fragile in nature so must be looked after with utmost care and love. Her rights being an equal partner of life must be provided at all costs and attempts be made to respect them as well. She must not be imprisoned between the kitchen and the bedroom of the house. She is the progenitor and guardian angel in human shape who raises every single soul known to the human history in her lap hence be proved full freedom to nourish herself and her soul in every sense. The due respect and care we give her has direct bearings upon all generations coming out of her down the line. The manliness of a man is proportionate to his grade of respect for the fragile heart of a woman.
The heart of a man is said to be the “temple of God” and that of a woman is logically the double temple of God since she carries the burden of mankind in her womb. She is having the Jannat under her feet for which our whole humanity strives day and night. Seen in this context, the respect meted to her must be the priority within our homes and outside. She must not be looked upon as a dole for our lustful needs nor be purchased by anything like gold and properties. The only criteria with which a woman be weighed is love and respect meeted to her essence which must not subsidies even after the deterioration set in her physical body in time.
Within the confines of our homes, we should develop the unique codes and languages based solely upon love. We must initiate our talks deeply embedded in mutual love, compassion. Each member of the family must enjoy full freedom within these republics of love that only can enrich their lives and nourish their personalities away from the daily vagaries within the society. The toxicities as borne out of the contradictions in our social relationships should not be given any space within the closed door parliament of our homes. It should be waded off with our love and smiles.
The modern couples are completely infatuated and enticed with everything modern and so called western life styles which translates into worldliness, power, pomp and show and the never ending material gain. This very interest based relations is a dangerous culture in which we don’t respect to the members who don’t earn a fat salary or don’t own any income generating avenues. It is incumbent upon us to save everything traditional within our homes where both the younger and the aged get highest respect and freedom not as per their pockets.
The lifelong partnership between the souls is thus beautiful as long as it carries the perfumes of mutual love and respect. They will never fed up looking the faces of each other till Ibn-e-Adam happens to the king of the heart of Bint-e-Hawa and the same Bint-e-Hawa must be the Noor of Ibn-e-Adam’s eyes. Their talks are the only music to their ears and their smiles work as the only fragrant spring in their courtyards. Despite all ills within our traditional societies and the helplessness of the modern man in front of the socio-economic challenges, our mutual love is still very much alive and quite accessible for those who seek. It is still the only antidote to the most ills of our lives and uncertainties within our homes. Love is the Divine Current which waits to be activated between the souls anytime they want. Let us love, let us live. (Concluded)

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