Children are the blessing from God. He bestows us children in two forms male and female. Children are gift from God. Every single life, every single child, is a reward and blessing from Allah. After marriage every spouse wishes to have children of their own. This desire of having children makes both husband and wife nearer to Allah. We must know that having children is entirely in the hands of God. This control of God or desire to have a child prevents us from any kind of misdeed. We humbly seek forgiveness of our past sins. The newly married couples truly believe and should trust that it is God’s will to whom He will bestow progeny. This desire of having children makes a couple obedient to God and by different activities they try to make Him happy. It is also God’s will to whom He will bestow son or daughter. Undoubtedly he knows better than us. We should be grateful to Him whatever He chooses for us. The people with strong faith always remain contented with Godly decisions in their lives. They gladly accept anything from God. Sometimes God put the human being under certain tribulations but the people with strong faith often come victorious against these trails, because they know God is putting us through different tests and only those overcome these tests who are true believer in God. I wish everyone in our social fabric would have this kind of understanding that whatever He does it is always in our favor.
Our society is deteriorating day by day by numerous taboos that are growing in our society. There are plentiful inviolability’s prevalent in our society but we will discuss here the most wretched ones which are the extended form of marriage. We know after the marriage the whole pillars of society or members of a family which starts from a husband expects a baby boy from their wives. They keep such a thinking that having a boy is blessed one than a baby girl. Birth of a boy is celebrated with great zeal and enthusiasm but birth of baby girl is not warmly received and in some families it is taken as a bad omen. It is customary in some families that they beforehand start buying clothes, toys and other luxuries before the birth of a baby boy. Even we choose a name for a baby boy before his arrival into this mortal world. One day I saw a wicked couple from a well off family in a city where a discussion was going on between them over the issue of what name we will keep for our coming baby. The dialogue starts like this, Husband said, proudly to his wife if it is baby boy we will name him Amir. Wife replied, if it is daughter then, her husband sternly turned towards his wife with a wild look in his face and raised a finger against her and said, look if it is daughter you keep her name, it is none of my business. It shows the patriarchal nature of her husband and we must not forget that woman is an epitome of love and patience. This segregation becomes a cause of divorce. Not only have this segregation is ripening on the issue of male and female child, nowadays in our society, strange tales are coming that innocent women have been divorced because of inefficiency in giving a birth to child. Childlessness is the state of people where men and women are incapable of having children. This inability of a person to conceive a child is nowadays at climax in some families where a female is oppressed and tortured by her male counterpart. It is perceived that children are fundamental and compulsory part of marriage. The social set up is made up like that only a woman carries the stigma and is made responsible for childlessness. Infertility can be on both sides and infertility of any partner can be a reason of not having a kid. But this stigma is only worn to female counterpart. This inability has broken and divided many families. This blot of not having children put these womenfolk under great stress and depression. People look down on such women because the society has created a false sense of superiority and made men feel better. They are facing double oppression on the one hand they are female means they must be submissive to male counterpart; secondly inefficiency of giving birth to children make them feel inferior and throw them in a pit of disgrace. Such childless women experience shame and alienation. Even reports are coming that mother-in-laws curse and whine girls when they would not give them grandchildren. Such shameful nature of mother-in laws forces many such innocent women to take extreme step means suicide.
In order to stop this menace that is rapidly growing in our societies. The need of the hour is to change our perception regarding the decisions of God. We should avoid venturing in the natural order. As I earlier said It is God’s will to whom he will bestow or not. It is equally important the different institutions who stigmatize such women must change their attitude and work for their emancipation and rehabilitation. It is only possible when we get deep understanding of the Quran and Hadith then such things will never surpass us. Childless couples can live happily with their spouses and we can gladly consider our daughters as a precious gift from God only if we change the draconian mental set up that is swiftly mounting in our society.

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